Let’s talk about sex {Well I am writing, you are reading}.
I can hear some going eeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwww, I can imagine red faces, I also imagine some others closing the page, some who may have a perverted view of this small word, others so thirsty to learn about the subject, etc.
Don’t worry, this is a friendly entry, nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed, my writing is for anyone who wants to read, it is a friendly write up, nothing rated R or triple X.
There is so much that is been said, done, about this topic.
The conversation should start at home.
The schools are not responsible for our children, neither is the government. The school and government could provide a support role, yet the responsibility starts at home.
What is the definition of that three letter word that brings; yucky feelings, pleasure feelings, embarrassment feelings, etc.?
As a noun distinguishes respectively female or male especially on the basis of their reproductive organs and structures.
Sex can also be use when referring to the behavior of sexual intercourse. Last but not least can be used to refer to the genitalia, either you are born with a vagina or a penis.
At what age should the conversation start?
The day they were born. Sometimes we think is best to talk when they are twelve or older. You probably already know that nowadays kids can learn and search using google or any other search engine, besides they have conversations with their friends, most kids have smartphones, tablets, etc.
Did you know that the average age to start dating in the United States is 12?
Are you waiting to have a sit down conversation or have a lesson about the topic?
Do you like long lectures you?
I know I don’t.
Of course lessons and even lectures can be helpful. Yet is best to (as parents, friends) talk and share ideas that have some kind of foundation.
Our mindset needs to change, let’s be willing to have an open door, let’s start the conversation. It doesn’t have to be weird.
Simple starts
When they are little it is easy to call body parts by their names, to share that private parts are private for a reason, they are not to be touch by no one (those conversations can be organic, while we are having breakfast or when we are driving in the car, or when ready to get clean).
Oh how I long for the days when my sons were little. Now they are a teen and a pre-teen and we can surely talk about multiple topics that for some are considered daring.
I am a firm believer in sharing information and to make decisions based on information. Understand the consequences of your decisions, if I choose to do A, it most likely result in 1.
In my head it works like the picture below.
Some things to keep in mind
- As humans we should think before we take a decision for any decision we take
- As a mom I would like to choose for the ones I love, I would like to be with them 24/7… yet that is impossible… furthermore, I cannot enter into thoughts or hearts… the best we parents can do is guide, provide tools, share about the possible results for each action … the rest is up to them (unless they are underage <that is a totally different topic>)
- Our (my husband’s and I) main objective is to share with them so later they won’t say “nobody told me”
There is a culture perspective of sex and there is the way sex was created to be.
Which one would you choose? Ponder about it because our decisions have a start point. Either we believe in the culture or we believe in what it was created to be, unfortunately we cannot choose both (although it may appear that we can)
I’ll share more. Until my next post… next Tuesday.
At your service;
Monica Evans
Many Hats Monica 